Losing someone emotionally significant hurts.
It’s gonna hurt and it’s gonna happen to you,
whether it’s from heartache, death or conflict.
When a negative thing is inevitable the best defense is to learn to cope constructively.
It’s all too easy to become self-destructive when you feel like shit.
So find something to learn or
train your body in something.
Have a clear idea of the person you’d like to be in 2-5 years and work towards that person.
This is good advice in general, you should do this all the time. Don’t wait until you need to know who your future self should be, keep them in mind throughout your life. Update them and improve them as you improve yourself.
If present tense you can’t be happy then do a favour for future tense you.
Bring them closer to that idealized self you’ve created.
Create growth from loss.
As per all things in life, this must be balanced. It is not a long term solution,
you will have to enjoy the present eventually.
If you don’t, you’re only living for the future and that’s akin to living for your death.
(for what else is inevitable in life?)
And that may mean letting yourself hurt.
When you have to, do it with friends nearby.
Caveat: I may misuse the term Natural Philosophy in this. It’s a word that I found which seemed similar to what I believed, so it’s the label I use. I’m not trying to redefine it for someone else, just using the name as a convenient place holder.
The ultimate world view a person takes is strange. It’s the most fundamental part of ones philosophy, yet we rarely decide it for ourselves.
I’m probably no different, but I have confidence in my rationalizations. (and so does everybody else)
Take a functional approach to world view; what makes one more useful than another? We’re all living in the same world and there do seem to be things that remain fairly typical. So if a worldview helps you predict how the world will react, than it’s useful.
Observe your reality, make predictions, test them, and take the successful ones.
Yes, this is a lot like science; but not the same. Science has a set method and body of work. Natural Philosophy is simply a philosophy to base your other beliefs on. There may be deeper levels to reality, unknown realms of existence that tinker and toy with our universe. If they don’t affect us in anyway, than they don’t matter (practically speaking). If they do affect us, then you will see how in your observations.
Seems too simple. Simplicity isn’t a flaw, it means it’s self evident.
Wisdom is the ephemeral cousin to intelligence. We quantify intelligence; grade it on scales and test ourselves to compare. No one would put a number to wisdom, yet some are more wise than others. There must be a quality that defines it and a gradient from supremely unwise to sagely.
A hallmark of the wise person is that they don’t consider themselves wise; they acknowledge their own ignorance. They tend to be old, yet not all people become wise with age. An intelligent person may know many things, but a wise person can give very deep life advice. They have some core belief but it’s often obscured in their speech. When teaching, they wont express their point directly but will deconstruct opposing views to let the student come to the conclusion on their own.
The difference between wisdom and intelligence is that wisdom is seeing the interrelations of reality in all it’s insane complexity, whereas intelligence is knowing facts about reality. This is why a wise person accepts their own ignorance; when you comprehend the scale of reality you see that you will never get beyond ignorance. Just seeing the universe as complex isn’t enough though, you specifically have to see the place human (or life in general) exist in and how they interrelate. Social interactions are as chaotic and fascinating as storms. Like storms they are unpredictable in an intelligent sort of way, but with wisdom you can have better hunches and guesses. And now we get to why wisdom can’t be quantified: it’s fuzzy, without hard answers, which means you can’t give binary success/fail evaluations to it. Diverse life experience is the most likely way to gain this skill, which may or may not come with age.
I spent a long time not describing myself as having wisdom, purely due to modesty. Part of being properly conscious is self analysis and I’d be lying to claim I don’t have an above average skill in what I described above. I still completely accept my ignorance, I will never have 100% confidence in my beliefs and I will therefore constantly question them. But there’s plenty of people far more ignorant than I.
So I’ll call my words wise.
At least in a relative kinda sense.
Weiss Words is a blog where I throw my thoughts online. I have no idea who this is for or if it’s really going to be helpful, useful or interesting to anyone. I’d like to try writing and I’d like to share some of the things that are rolling around in my head.
First thing to explain is the title. Weiss Words, Weiss pronounced like Vize.
Well, my last name sounds like wise, so Vize Words….
Right, hilarious, moving on from that (I promise jokes are not the point of this blog).
In all seriousness, I’m trying to impart whatever shred of wisdom I’ve developed with my nearly 30 years on this earth. And I also realize that some hetero, cis, middle class, white dude isn’t exactly a revolutionary person to think he has something useful to say about the world. But ultimately, we do all have something unique to say to the world. Blogging is a perfect way for everyone to get a chance to shout to the world and be judged on our words. So I’m just going to talk here and hope that someone appreciates it. If not, I’ll have learned something about what people want and maybe gotten a bit better at writing.
The first article will be explaining my thoughts on wisdom and how claiming to have wise words isn’t the outlandishly arrogant thing it may sound like at first.